Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts

Friday, January 2, 2009

Limbs not needed for inspirational high school wrestler

Dustin Carter

Dustin Carter, Thu, 01 Jan 2009 3:33p.m.

This is not one of those typical stories about the sweet boy who overcame his disabilities – it is a story about an ornery brat who did it just the same.

"I was a trouble maker," says Dustin Carter. "Me and dad used to fight a lot.  I was very disrespectful."

Carter was not born troubled or

disabled, but when a child he contracted a rare blood disease that would eventually claim his limbs - all four of them. After that, Carter grew into a straight F student with a passion for apathy.

Until eighth grade, when he found - of all things - wrestling.

"I got beat pretty bad," says Carter.

"Well, they just get out there and just throw him around on the mat," says his dad.

Carter lost just about every time he set his torso in the ring, but the competition brought out a side of him no one had ever seen before.

"He's got heart," says his coach Nate Horne. "He's got the heart of a lion."

"I'm a pretty determined person," says Carter. "I'll sit at something and sit at it for hours until I get it."

Over the years he trained hard. By all accounts he became a model of self-discipline.  His grades went up and he actually started winning - winning more than anyone, other than Carter, could have ever imagined.

"There's not one day in my life, ever since I started wrestling, that I have not dreamed of going to the state tournament."

And last week, it happened. Carter made it to the state tournament.

"It was amazing. I looked up, I looked around, and then I got scared," he says. "I was like, I feel really small right now."

The Ohio tournament is actually one of the most competitive in the nation, and yet even here he was able to pull off a win. The victory placed Carter in the top 16 in his age group.

His final match - the last of his high school career - was a real knock-down drag-out. And although he lost the bout, he won the audience.

"I look up, and everybody is on their feet, and immediately my eyes started watering."

Carter says when you are disabled like he is, it is hard to get used to all the staring. But this kind of staring – that, he could get used to.



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Thursday, December 4, 2008

Happiness coach keeps the smiles coming

 

Christina Nelson believes happiness is a skill that can be taught, just like driving a car or swinging a tennis racket. And she wants to train you to be more content at work.

The motivational speaker and self-proclaimed "happiness coach" has started an organization to help ladies become more upbeat and, consequently, more successful in work and life. Women Inspiring Women kicked off last week and meets weekly in Tampa, Fla.

The first gathering drew eight women, from 20-something singles to grandmothers. Nelson, a giggly newlywed of 56, led the group in self-affirmation exercises and explained how the law of attraction has helped her land jobs, heal a chronic back problem and, four months ago, get married. Though she doesn't have a degree in happiness (who does

, really?), Nelson says her expertise comes from three decades as a dating coach, seminars, books and yes, watching Oprah. At the end of the 90-minute meeting, Nelson left the group with a homework assignment to say something positive before getting out of bed every day.

The always-cheerful Thonotosassa, Fla. resident is armed with endless supply of motivational one-liners: "Think about your thoughts." "Create your day." "Dream big." "Do a checkup from the neck up."

For future events, Nelson is open to exploring topics the group suggests. There is only one rule: Be positive. If someone makes a negative comment, they must put a dollar into a jar.

"If somebody stays negative in here, they're not going to stay here long," Nelson said.

"And they're going to be broke!" quipped Hazelann Pace, of Lutz, Fla., who had to pony up after refusing to let me take a picture of the group because she wasn't feeling photogenic. The money helps offset Nelson's expenses.

The bottom line of this lovefest, Nelson says, is that happy people are more productive and successful. Now that's something to smile about.

Christina Nelson's tips for relieving stress at work.

1. Find the good in all people and situations. That cube mate who's too loud on the phone? At least he makes awesome brownies for the company potluck.

2. When your boss snaps at you, don't take it personally. No one can emotionally hurt you unless you receive it, so brush your shoulders off and move on.

3. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. The more positive energy you put out, the more opportunities and productivity you'll get.

4. Say thank you often. It will keep you from getting upset.

5. At least once a day, say out loud, "I am confident, knowledgeable and productive" or whatever else you need to hear. Soon you will be.

6. Smile for no reason.

(Distributed by Scripps Howard News Service, http://www.scrippsnews.com)

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